How do I get my hair to be...?

Okay I have naturally very curly hair even curly at the roots, but my hair is fine and has a tendency to stick up and be very frizzy. I noticed it looks good when I put mousse or gel or spray in it but it gets hard and become a "curl trap" and doesn't have the soft curly look but the "crunchy curls" look which is pretty but makes my roots stiff and not able to move until i wash my hair. When I wash my hair and blow-dry it, it doesnt go straight, it is just very poufy, not curly or straight, just fluffy and kinda 80s or 70s looking. And if I air dry it, ti does the same thing. I have a flat iron and I can get my hair very straight when I use it, and I like the way it looks, the only problem is it lasts only a few hours and it becomes curly again...also, I dont want to have to make my hair straight all the time for it to be and look soft and manageable. how can I make it straight on top with loose bouncy curls towards the tips of my hair? I want loose, soft curls not tight kinky curls.

How do I get my hair to be...?

if you want your hair to stay straight longer try using aussie sydney smooth anti humidity hair spray it holds for 12 hours and doesn't make it stiff and for loose curls try herbal essences totally twisted curl scrunching gel it doesn't make your hair tight and hard

How do I get my hair to be...?

there's no way u could do that just accept the way u are

How do I get my hair to be...?

try using ION silk drops after the spray or gel (from sallys beauty supply stores)